So I guess I knew it would happen sooner or later, with public openness in such a vast forum as the interweb, one is bound to have his views spread about to his locality. I think I messed up when I added a few of the wrong people to my facebook account, where I often publish links to my posts. Well someone has informed my Wife’s mother that we are Atheists.
Now, my wife, she isn’t an Atheist (yet hehe). She says she doesn’t know, which is understandable, but that she definitely doesn’t believe in Jesus or Christianity. Now, let me just say, I didn’t have anything to do with this, somehow, some way, we ended up moving away from the faith at nearly the same exact time…one day we were sitting together talking and she brought it up…I NEVER DID, this was during the time where i couldn’t even express all my conflicting thoughts about my faith, so this was a HUGE relief for me. So anyway, her brother called her Saturday and asked her if she was an Atheist.
Someone told her mother, I don’t know who. Now the parents want to have a talk with us. This can’t be good. It’s not like I mind a whole lot, I have never really been ashamed of any of my beliefs or Non-beliefs….I was just trying to lay the hints in a more gentle manner…I make jokes and smart remarks about church and Jesus all the time…just waiting for them to put the pieces together. No one in the family really uses the internet…so i don’t have to worry about that part…which is why i have been so open here…they don’t know what Google is…i thought i was safe…why did i let you people on facebook know about this? Well at least I don’t have to worry about being found out anymore huh?
The reason I didn’t want them to know yet is multifold; they refuse to listen to anyone, they think I have brainwashed Monica, they think we are going to hell, they want to preach at us, they will want to get their pastor involved to come talk to us…and my biggest concern…is Mema…Monica’s grandmother…not only will she not understand, it will hurt her and make her anxious—that’s the last thing i want. So…i don’t know if she even knows yet…if they are smart down there they will know better…and anyone else that reads the things I post here will know better too—in other words…keep your mouth shut to her…or anyone connected to her…none of this is her fault and she shouldn’t be punished for it (nor should my Wife and I, but we will take it if we must)
I am afraid that Monica’s parents are going to treat us like we are more social outcasts than we already are…like we are out worshipping Satan (Ave Natas) on the weekends, drinking goats blood, and providing free abortions in our home….well that just isnt the case (in fact, we are both still pro-life, though she is more adamant about it than I am). Monica and I have always been outcasts, usually because of our viewpoints or faith…you see, when we were fervent Christians, they always thought we took that too far…they went as far to go to the church we attended to make sure that we weren’t joining a cult.
I think the most annoying part of this is that no one in her family, or my family for that matter, has ever been devoted to god, the church, christ, and our faith as we once were. Her parents honestly aren’t very devoted at all in any way that I have ever seen. So why would it bother them that we no longer believe?
I will keep you updated on this…it might get rough.